During mediation it is really important, though often really hard, to keep communication with your ex civilized. Communication can be hampered when you feel too anxious, angry or upset. Basic exercises may help – take a breath, go for a walk, count to ten. Finding a way to communicate effectively Read more…
Mediators are prohibited from giving clients legal advice. If you require a legally binding agreement (a Consent Order) to finalise your agreement then it is a good idea to have a solicitor. If you are unclear about what your position should or could be in mediation it is also a Read more…
A 2021 study into the stress of taking a divorce to court has found the following effects on children: Parental separation can be highly stressful for children and can have a big impact on their lives. For some, this impact can last into adulthood. Children often feel left in the Read more…
Different people use different strategies for managing conflicts. These are learned, usually in childhood, and they seem to function automatically. Often we are not aware of how we act in conflict situations. We just do what comes naturally. But we do have a personal conflict management style, and because it Read more…
Here are 10 top tips for parents to help them think about divorce from their child’s perspective. They have been devised by The Family Justice Young People’s Board • Remember I have the right to see both of my parents as long as it is safe for me. • I Read more…
This guide is designed to help separating partners: a) work out what to do; b) what the law says on pension sharing; and c) how to come to an agreement. It also sets out what other help is out there to help you plan for the future. The guide can Read more…
In divorcing couples it’s usually the man who has at least 90% of the pension wealth. Research by the University of Manchester found that while most couples have a pension, its normally one partner who has most of the pension pot. Fewer than 15% of couples have pensions that are Read more…
Adele’s first single “Easy On Me” from her latest album “30” has her explaining to her son and former husband why she chose to walk away from her short marriage: “I changed who I was to put you both first, but now I give up”. The average length of a Read more…
Sometimes life can get so complicated that you don’t know where to turn to for help. The Guardian recommends Mediation. Below is an article in the Guardian newspaper that recommends Mediation following a pregnancy for a married woman who was having an affair. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/jul/16/i-think-the-married-woman-i-had-an-affair-with-is-pregnant-with-my-baby-whats-the-right-thing-to-do
If you are thinking of getting divorced, or have already decided to do so, starting the legal process of divorce can feel overwhelming. Especially at a time when you or your ex-partner could be feeling emotionally vulnerable. So where do you even begin? And how can you get divorced Read more…