After separation, your child or children will need both parents to be actively involved and interested. If you can’t always be there, think about letters, Skype, phone calls, sending photos, and asking questions.
Both parents should be involved in the children’s education regarding school plays and parent evenings.
Reassure your child or children that they are essential to you as it is the most important thing.
Never criticise the other parent or argue in front of your children. Only say nice things about the other parent – think how you would feel if the other parent criticised you to your child.
Support them in spending time with the other parent and let them have a good time—you don’t want them to feel guilty about loving their mother or father.
Communicate directly with the other parent, and do not use your children as messengers.
Try to create a home that is comfortable, loving, and welcoming to them.
Share birthdays and Christmases (and other important days) without acrimony. Think about what will work best for your children, even if it means you are making a sacrifice.
If possible, work towards being in the same room as your ex and even share family time with your ex and the children. Outings, meals, and even a cup of tea will give your children the message that you can focus on them.
Sit your children down occasionally and ask them how it is going and if you could do better. Be willing to hear the answer and act on it.
Children want both their parents in their lives. They are going to have big challenges ahead, and they need to be able to count on you both.